Dating an african girl
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Several years ago I was hanging out with a friend who happened to be white.We were enjoying a live band when the guitarist (who was white) looked and smiled in our direction during the set.
You can imagine the awkwardness that ensued when after the set, he walked right up to me and asked me my name.Later, while on a date, my white guitarist and I passed several African American men and one remarked “Why is she with that white dude?” His friend simply responded, “Maybe the brothers ain’t treating her right? While an interesting explanation, it wasn't the case.We were attracted to each other, he asked me on a date and I accepted.Interracial Dating Done (W)right by Andrea Wright At one point in my idealistic youth, I thought, “there’s no difference dating men of different races”. Of course, there are similarities: they are men and thus the majority of them need validation that they are able to protect, provide for you, and most importantly that they have completely won your heart. There are differences especially if you’re African American and he’s…not.There’s usually a period of curiosity, to be fair, that goes both ways. Please put your hand down, I’m not going to high-five/fist pound you with every witty observance either of us makes.
The media has portrayed us (African American women) in a light slightly south of positive and there’s a lot of re-education that must take place: Yes, I enjoy water sports. Yes, I share the ability to get angry like everyone else, however, an ‘angry Black woman’ I am not.Anticipating questions that seem obvious to you helps offset awkward moments.Many of us are genuinely okay with the education process if in the end you've been able to teach someone something.You never know how that’s going to payoff in future generations.I like to imagine men I've dated relaying our relationship to his children and grandchildren: the one that got away, that beautiful, wise African American princess who taught me so much!Expectations: if you choose to date someone of a different race, you may get stares and a few noises of disapproval as you walk along hand in hand with your beloved—even today, but do your best to ignore it.